christian cowgirl's Blog

First I want to extend my condolensces to the family. I do not know them, however, what a tragedy to be dealing with, and so unnecessary. There are so many ways to get bullying to stop. Sadly, for as many ways as there are to get it to stop, there are just as many ways stopping those in charge. When you look at this and all bullying situations, (and I am sure to get tons of reactions to this, but I'm stepping out there anyway) the bottom line is that society needs to step back and take a look at where this behavior really starts...at home. Yes, that's right, I said it. And I'll stand behind my statement. As I've said before, my children are by and far not perfect, none are. It's time for all parents to first and foremost take more interest in the family as a unit. Family isn't what is used to be or what it should be. And secondly, parents need to step up to the plate and be held accountable. The troubles teens face today do not start at school, on the streets, picked up by their peers. While I do not have the data on hand, there is so much data to back the idea that if we can stop bullying early on (as early as pre-school even, sad as that is), situations as Dakotas would not be having to be discussed. I could go on and on, I will not. I hope and pray each and every day that I drop my children off at school that their day will go uneventful and I will pick them up safe each afternoon. One idea I've seen tossed around at various parenting groups I've participated in is Parenting classes for new parents, just as you'd take a Lamaze class before delivery. Seems

I agree with most of what you’ve said, but there is one problem. You can’t get parents today to take the time to pay attention to their kids, how you going to get them invest the time to attend a parenting class? We’ve evolved into a disposable society, and that’s just as true with regard to our children as it is of our appliances.

I was just speaking today to someone who knows about what goes on in public schools. she told me it is a battelground. She had to take her kids out of it. AND from what she told me the teachers in the public schools are just as bad as the kids because they won't stand up for what is wrong and for what is right. She was talking about a school that I thot was pretty safe and decent. Not anymore. She told me the girls have less of a chance to survive ridicule and being bullied that the boys do. My heart went out to Dakota and I felt like crying but I was afraid I wouldn't stop.

my daughter was cyber bullied one summer. It went on and one and on until I stepped in and contacted the school principal and her dad. her dad had no idea and put his foot down on this tramp. she had threatened to get my daughter alone at the busstop when school started back up then slit her throat. She went and kept meeting her, but i was there too to pick her up. this girl was a mess. her life was a mess. but that is no excuse for doing this to my then 8th grade daughter.

I found that in school growing up the teachers and administration never cared. I have bullied when I was in school, but got it more then I ever gave. Gosh if I only knew then what I know now then I would have done alot of things different.

I know that I may come across harsh, harrassing or even insane sometimes here in the blog world, but I like to debate different view points and give people a hard time every now and then.

I assume that we're talking about the boy who got in a fight and died from a heart condition or something? I caught a bit of the story. I just hate hearing about that kind of stuff.

I think we just choose not to think about these kind of things in order to keep our sanity. I know I do. If I dwelled in a fraction of the stuff I deal with everyday then I would surely go insane within 24 hours.

Some here in the blog world would argue that has already happened.

-JigSaw

I was bullied relentlessly in school by some of the popular kids. It made me stronger as a person and now when I go to my reunions I can go w/ a clear conscience that I didn't bully. Two of my bullies were @ my 20 year reunion. In the 5th grade, they dd something pretty bad and blemed me and I got detentions. They told me @ the reunion that this incedent had been carrying them all throughout the years and they practially begged me to forgive them. I did, of course. I hope Dakota is w/ the Lord because Our Lord will comfort him and love him. He is safe now. Jigsaw, I have a new respect for you. Thank you for your honesty and opening up your heart.

I live in a small town, population of about 400. Most people dont think this happens in such a small town, but , it does. My son has a pace-maker and was bullied by a neighbor boy. This boy new he had a pace-maker and he would deliberately hit him in the shoulder. He would hit him upside the head getting off the bus, and the bus driver would do nothing! I tried to keep them seperated by telling the bus driver to let my son off first, but, she would not let my son off the bus way ahead of him and he would still get him. I even called juvinile athorities on him and he still did this. I eventually had to just take my kids to school and pick them up from school. In my case, it all turned out ok in the end, but, if we lived in a big city I do'nt think I could have done anything for him. My condolensces go out to Scott!